I Don't Help People Get Sober

I don't help people get sober, I help people reduce the urge to reach for alcohol to cope.

This is the newest evolution of my coaching, and honestly, it came from frustration.

I'm a 5/1 Generator in Human Design language. Frustration is my "not self." Honestly, at first, I thought I should just stick to counseling and maybe I wasn't supposed to be a coach at all.

Then I talked to a friend/ businesscoach and someone who has studied Human Design far more extensively than I have. This session gave me the inspiration I needed. Somewhere in that process, I realized that I don't want to be a "Sobriety Coach." There are a lot of really amazing sobriety coaches out there who can help with that.

My heart is in mental health and spiritual wellbeing.

I want to help people, myself included, to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives with purpose and intention. There is a constant ache in my heart that tells me "life was all supposed to be so much more beautiful than this." And because it's not, that's why I kept drinking - to numb the ache of suffering.

Sobriety doesn't make the ache go away, in most cases it makes it worse. The only reason I’ve been able to stay alcohol-free is because I changed my environment, my boundaries, and my daily life— not just my drinking habit. Unfortunately, I still feel that ache, but I'am better able to find ease in the discomfort of it, and find meaning in it.

I didn’t have a dramatic rock bottom or consequences that needed Rehab. If you’re someone who needs structured recovery, rehab, or clinical support, please continue on that path. But, that is not my story and I think there are lots of people out there, like I was, who are slowly or quietly self-medicating to numb the pain. If that is you, I have another path to offer you.

There are many ways to climb the same mountain.

Some trails are steep and rigid.
Some are breathtaking and slow.
Some are crowded. Some are lonely.

The path I can offer you is what I call stress resilience coaching, which is a slower, winding trail of self-study.

Yoga philosophy teaches that suffering often comes from avidya; misperception or disconnection from our true nature. Alcohol became my way of bypassing the helplessness I felt in certain areas of life.

But the deeper work is never about removing discomfort. Life will always bring challenges:
divorce, blended families, grief, career loss, identity shifts, major transitions. Life is about building the capacity to stay present with "what is," and make hard adjustments as needed.

Yoga is my recovery program. I got to yoga classes like some people got to AA. In my opinion, yoga is a complete intervention for mental and physical well-being. Yoga is the practice of calming the agitated mind and finding ease in the discomfort of life. Let's be honest, life will always present us with discomfort, suffering and dis-ease, but we are capable of finding ease in every experience and every difficult circumstance.

On this path, there’s no pressure to be perfect. There is no pass/fail or "return to day one." Stress resilience isn’t about counting days of sobriety.

Stress resilience is the ability to respond, adapt to and recover from significant stress. It’s about strengthening your nervous system, your inner leadership, and your connection to your purpose, so that alcohol naturally loses its grip when you’re ready.

Alcohol use is a conditioned response to misalignment or misperception (avidya). It is often a bypassing of the helplessness we feel in key areas of our lives.

If this resonates, take the Stress Resilience Insight Score to find out how resilient you are currently. Let's work together to increase your stress resilience, so that you can live your best most fulfilling life possible (and maybe ditch the booze as bonus).

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You are far more powerful than you think!